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I Love My Real Self

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One year ago today I set out on a journey to love my real self. There was no way to predict what would ultimately unfold on my path to self love. Here’s my story.

Last year I took a personal vow to learn to love myself in honor of my daughters (read here). All along I thought accepting my physical appearance was all I needed to do to achieve self-love. In reality, there is more to loving your real self than just accepting who you see in the mirror.

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I Started Hiding Bits of My Real Self at a Young Age

Is it possible to love who you are both inside and out? For years I’ve hidden parts of myself from the world – bits and pieces I never wanted anyone to know existed. It’s hard work to conceal personality traits integral to my overall being, but I am good at fooling others.

My childhood temperament is an important part of this story because when you’re little you act most like your true self. As a toddler I threw tantrums when I felt a loss of control over my life or surroundings. Like most children, I didn’t like to be told, “No,” but it was more about not being in control than anything. My Mom can tell you I was the queen of pulling out my hair and screaming until my throat was raw. I thrived on routine and predictability. When I didn’t know what was going to happen next, I was unable to compose myself. Those emotions have to go somewhere when you’re little, right?

When I entered preschool I learned how to internalize my frustrations and fears with the unpredictability of life. All of my teachers praised me for being a star student, hardworking and easy going. I strived to earn their praise and approval – squishing down any negative feelings instead of ever letting them show. I don’t recall feeling anxious as a child, even when my amazing Grandma died from cancer. Instead, I pushed any uneasiness deep down inside where no one could see it. I would continue to hide my worries and my strong desires for control for many years.

Loving Myself from the Inside Out

Let’s fast forward to March 2020 when I made peace with some of the dark bits I hid from the world, i.e. my insecurities about my body (read more here). I accepted my flaws and vowed to love every inch of myself. I celebrated this vow with YOU through #ILoveMyRealSelf and felt gloriously optimistic about my new proclaimed self-love. Not once did I consider that to REALLY love myself, I would need to address a few traits.

Through therapy and self reflection I’ve learned more about myself than I thought there was to know. I’m an angry cleaner – often taking my anger out on a vacuum or sponge instead of working through it the root of my feelings. I’m reactionary instead of responsive – often regretting the way I react to a situation and wishing I had taken the time to respond instead. I am not good at self-talk and beat myself up for being a completely normal person.

To love my real self isn’t just being happy with my physical appearance – it’s so much more. It’s forgiving myself, surrendering feelings of anger, and letting go of anything (or anyone) that is not serving a good purpose in my life. It’s being kind to myself when I’m tired, stressed, or sad.

Loving my real self is loving my true self.

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Want to join me in sharing your journey to self love? Use #ILoveMyRealSelf on your social media posts or search to see more real life stories!

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